You fell again down and you are looking for something to boost your energy and get you back on track. Losing weight is a very stressful process and not anyone can do it.
Here are a few things you need to understand before you start thinking about how to get motivated.
1. Expect that no one can understand you
Sorry, I had to break it to you but that's just the way it is. You have to remember and understand that 90% of the people do not understand what you are going through.
Sick of their advice? You feel like you just want to ducktape their mouth so they can finally shut up? Or those I-know-everything dudes that try to distract your focus, because in their opinion you have no idea what you are doing… ugh…
Even though you probably know they do have good intentions, you have to know that they have no idea how big of stress they are causing you.
You finally gather energy, focus on your meals and workouts, and try to ignore all side factors, but you just can’t.
“Road to hell is paved with good intentions” once I heard. That’s why I no longer give advice except when someone asks. I thought I was doing a favor to someone until I became the one who was receiving that “favor”.
So since I stopped giving advice, I figured I'm just not that kind of a person… So I started a blog.
2. Don't listen to anyone
Yes, you heard me. While they are talking to YOU about YOUR goals and YOUR process, remember: that is all YOURs.
YOU plan it. YOU enforce it, YOU track it, YOU collect the fruits of YOUR labor!
Even if it’s your family or your friends who love you and wish you the very best, it’s YOUR life!
Be smart. Whatever you plan to do with your shape and your health, do detailed research. Find every single thing about it and think about it. If you evaluate it’s a good thing for you, just do it!
There will always be someone on your road, good or evil, they will try to distract you, accidentally or on purpose.
I remember when I told my mom that I will be fasting for the next 3 days (because I read some study that fasting is healthy). She almost collapsed.
She was doing her best to make me quit it, and I lost a ton of energy trying to explain everything.
You know what? She didn’t hear a single thing. All she heard is that I’ll not eat for three days.
In her eyes, I was just out of my mind.
Sometimes people who love you the most are the same people that are dragging you down, simply because they want the best for you and they believe their actions ARE best for you. As you know from this little story about me and my mom, that's not always the case.
3. Stop sharing your plans
You would be surprised how much energy you lose trying to share something.
Think about AAs. Why do they share? Because they all have one exact thing in common and they all understand each other. Do they share anything outside of those 4 walls?
Heck no. Outside their organization, not everyone can understand them. To the majority of people, they are just alcoholics.
How many people do you have in your surrounding who know what are you planning to do next?
You can go and try to tell them about your intentions, and they will probably understand, but I would advise you to keep everything for yourself. Don't tell people your dreams. Show them.
Surround yourself with positive thoughts and keep them to yourself. Just start doing what you plan to do, and you will keep all good vibes for you only.
Don't waste your energy on people. Focus on yourself. That way your weight loss motivation will be a lot stronger.
4. Understand your body
For every bigger weight loss, you have to understand what is going on inside your body. This is one of the first things you have to do if you, for example, want to lose 50 pounds in 3 months.
Maybe you don’t want to learn about it, or you are not interested in it, which is perfectly fine, but your motivation will be on a much higher level if you know what is going on in there.
Our bodies are made to adapt to almost everything. You have people in Africa living in a boiling pot, and you have people in Siberia living in a freaking freezer.
One funny thing is that once our body adapts to something, it wants no changes to be done. Any change you expose your body to, it will start complaining and it will try to stop you.
If you travel from the US to Singapore (for instance), you will expose your body to a totally different climate. You will probably get jet-lagged so hard that you'll end up with diarrhea, stomach cramps, or messed up sleep. Once your body adapts to it, you will probably face the issue when you get back home (because you changed climate again).
If you start to lose weight your body will consider it as an attack and it will do EVERYTHING in its power to try to stop you.
Those stages are called plateaus. And they can last. I learned how to break a plateau in a day, and I really recommend you learn it too because it will happen at some point.
You sweat every day, diet is perfect, sleeping hours are phenomenal, and yet you step on the scale every morning and there is no change.
Understand your body. You are the owner, and therefore you control it.
It just doesn’t speak the same language as you are.
5. What's your why?
The root of your weight loss motivation needs to be your why.
Why did you start doing this? Why are you going through all this pain? Why are you trying to change? Why did you decide to upgrade?
What’s your why?
If your why is deep enough, it will be stronger than any obstacle you face.
Whenever I was disappointed and wanted to take off my fighting gloves and quit I remembered all my why’s. They keep me running even now.
Your “Why” is your biggest drive, and dig deep until you find it.
In order to find your “why” you have to keep asking that question to all your answers. For example:
– Why do I want to lose weight? Because I will be healthier.
– Why do I want to be healthier? Because I want to live long.
– Why do I want to live long?…. and so on.
At some point, one of those answers will be something deep you didn't even know you had it inside. And that answer, that “why” will be your weight loss motivation so strong that no cravings can mess up your weight loss journey.
“Pain is temporary. It may last for a minute, hour or a day, or even a year, but eventually, it will subside and something else will take its place. If I quit, however, it will last forever” – Eric Thomas
6. Make every day different
If you take a diet, plan your meals for the next month or a year you are actually making a pattern designed to fail.
You have to be creative in order to keep the weight loss motivation! Find a way to please your cravings in a healthy way! No one is expecting you to give up on everything and start starving yourself to death. Even if you are one of those people who can deal with patterns, let me tell you the bad news:
Eventually, that diet won’t work anymore!
We spoke about how your body adapts quickly. When you adapt your body to a pattern diet, and you feed it with what it expects, it will no longer work for you. And the worse part is, whenever you decide to have a cheat day or even a cheat meal, you will be surprised by your scale tomorrow morning!
You will gain weight from patterns! Not lose!
Experiment! Find ideas here, or on some social networks! Heck, just by googling “Low-calorie healthy meals” you can find hundreds of great ideas.
And of course, don't be lazy to make them!
Weight loss motivation plays a huge role in your journey to become the best version of yourself. Things you need to know about weight loss motivation are:
- Expect that no one can understand you. Don't seek for understanding from others. If you want to explain to your close ones how you feel, you should definitely do that, but know that they will not be able to understand you 100% if they've never been in your situation.
- Don't listen to anyone. Find experts, learn about weight loss, and stick to the plan. Here on Extreme Loser, you have a bunch of guides completely free of charge.
- Stop sharing your plans. Stop losing energy. Focus all energy on your plan and show everyone the end result.
- Understand your body. Learn everything about it. That way, your weight loss will be a lot easier.
- Find your why. Find your drive and let it push you through your journey.
- Make every day different. Boring plans fail big time.
Hope this helps you with your weight loss motivation!
Founder at Extreme Loser